At 11 PM on a Tuesday, the text came in from another client, a successful attorney who couldn’t sleep, couldn’t trust his team, and couldn’t figure out why achieving everything he’d worked for still felt hollow. DeMonta Whiting, licensed psychotherapist and leadership coach, wasn’t surprised. In five years of working with Los Angeles’ highest performers, he’d seen this pattern countless times: men who had mastered the art of success but lost themselves in the process.
That late-night message became the catalyst for what DeMonta calls his most important evolution yet. After building a thriving private practice helping executives, attorneys, investors, and entertainers navigate the weight of constant responsibility, he realized the men who needed his help most couldn’t always access it through traditional therapy alone.
The Quiet Crisis of High Achievement
The statistics tell one story, successful men climbing corporate ladders, closing deals, leading teams. But behind closed doors, DeMonta witnessed a different reality. High-achieving men struggling with trust, burning out from the pressure of being everyone’s go-to person, and questioning whether their success was worth the personal cost.
“High achievers get a bad rep sometimes,” DeMonta explains. “Your survival skills made you who you are. Now it’s time to learn new skills.”
This insight shaped his unique approach to mental health and performance coaching. Rather than pathologizing success or demanding clients slow down, DeMonta helps them recognize which strategies still serve them and which have become limitations. His methods have earned him a reputation for breaking through to even the most guarded clients, those who’ve spent years perfecting the art of appearing unshakeable.
From Survival Skills to Success Strategies
DeMonta’s background as both a licensed psychotherapist and leadership coach gives him a rare perspective on the intersection of mental health and high performance. His clinical training provides the foundation for understanding trauma responses and behavioral patterns, while his coaching expertise translates that knowledge into actionable strategies for modern leadership.
Working with actors, directors, lawyers, and executives across Los Angeles, DeMonta developed what he calls “practical psychology”, an approach that acknowledges the realities of high-stakes careers while creating space for genuine healing and growth. His clients aren’t looking to completely overhaul their lives; they want to optimize them.
“You can take a nap without your empire falling apart,” he often tells clients, addressing the hypervigilance that many high achievers mistake for dedication.
The Evolution Beyond the Therapy Room
While his private practice continues to thrive, DeMonta recognized that the traditional therapy model, weekly sessions behind closed doors, wasn’t reaching all the men who could benefit from his approach. Many high-performing men resist therapy due to stigma, scheduling constraints, or simply not knowing where to start.
His solution: expanding into coaching, workshops, and strategic partnerships that meet men where they are. These new offerings provide the psychological insight and practical tools his therapy clients value, packaged in formats that feel accessible and relevant to busy professionals.
The workshops focus on specific challenges high-achieving men face: rebuilding trust after betrayal, leading without burning out, and redefining success beyond external metrics. Through strategic partnerships with organizations and leadership development programs, DeMonta is scaling his impact to reach men who might never step into a therapist’s office but desperately need the tools he provides.
Breaking Through the Trust Barrier
One of DeMonta’s most powerful insights centers on trust, not just trusting others, but learning to trust themselves with vulnerability. Many of his clients have spent years being the reliable one, the problem-solver, the person everyone depends on. This hyperresponsibility often masks a deep fear of depending on others.
“The biggest secret most high-performing men don’t realize is that learning to trust others is the key to achieving what they really want in life,” DeMonta notes. This revelation has become central to his coaching methodology, helping men understand that true leadership requires the courage to be supported, not just supportive.
His work has been featured in Voyage LA and Shout Out LA, recognition that reflects his growing influence in bridging clinical mental health with leadership development. As a member of Psi Chi, the International Honor Society in Psychology, DeMonta brings academic rigor to practical applications that actually work in high-pressure environments.
Redefining Masculine Success
What sets DeMonta apart in a crowded field of coaches and therapists is his refusal to ask high-achieving men to become less ambitious. Instead, he helps them become more strategic about how they channel that ambition. His approach acknowledges that drive, competitiveness, and high standards aren’t problems to be fixed, they’re strengths to be refined.
This philosophy resonates particularly with men who’ve been told they’re “too intense” or need to “slow down” by well-meaning friends, family, or previous therapists. DeMonta’s message is different: you don’t need to dim your light, but you might need better strategies for sustaining it.
Through his expanded offerings, men learn to separate their identity from their achievements, build genuine connections despite busy schedules, and create systems that support their ambitions rather than depleting their energy.
The Ripple Effect of Healthy Leadership
DeMonta’s work extends beyond individual transformation. When high-performing men learn healthier ways to lead and live, the impact ripples through their organizations, families, and communities. They become examples of what’s possible when success doesn’t require sacrificing mental health, relationships, or personal fulfillment.
His strategic partnerships are designed to amplify this ripple effect, creating cultures where high performance and well-being coexist. By working with organizations to implement his principles at scale, DeMonta is contributing to a broader shift in how we define and pursue professional success.
The men who work with DeMonta don’t just get better at managing their careers, they get better at enjoying them. They learn that taking care of themselves isn’t selfish; it’s strategic. They discover that asking for help isn’t weakness; it’s wisdom.
If you’re a high-achieving man who’s tired of success that feels empty, or if your organization wants to support leaders who perform at their best without burning out, DeMonta Whiting’s expanded approach offers a path forward. His methods provide the psychological insight and practical tools needed to redefine success on your own terms, build trust that supports rather than depletes you, and create the kind of leadership that actually feels sustainable.
About DeMonta Whiting
DeMonta Whiting is a licensed psychotherapist, speaker, and leadership coach specializing in high-achieving men. With more than five years of experience in mental health and performance coaching, he has worked with executives, attorneys, investors, and entertainers across Los Angeles. His work has been featured in Voyage LA and Shout Out LA, and he is a member of Psi Chi, the International Honor Society in Psychology. Learn more at demontawhiting.com and connect with him on LinkedIn.
